People do, I think, confuse the idea of 'hurting someone you love' with the idea of causing someone you love to experience physical sensations of pain. I'd not want to emotionally hurt any of my friends or lovers, but knowing that there are sensations we can share or create in each other that can be enjoyed is the key.
It is difficult to describe. I don't enjoy pain for the endorphins, I have a low threshold and don't think I've ever had an endorphin rush simply because I don't think a beating I've had has ever taken me that far before my threshold stopped me. When I am beaten it's about the destruction and humiliation of me as a person and the forceible reconstruction of me as a slave, a thing, an object.
Sex is performance. Theatre, if you will. Often a very small audience¹. Just as a play can be improvised, without costumes or props and on a soft romantic theme, so too can it be a horror story with props, costumes, delicious thrills and a sense of danger.
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Date: 2001-06-13 06:59 am (UTC)It is difficult to describe. I don't enjoy pain for the endorphins, I have a low threshold and don't think I've ever had an endorphin rush simply because I don't think a beating I've had has ever taken me that far before my threshold stopped me. When I am beaten it's about the destruction and humiliation of me as a person and the forceible reconstruction of me as a slave, a thing, an object.
Sex is performance. Theatre, if you will. Often a very small audience¹. Just as a play can be improvised, without costumes or props and on a soft romantic theme, so too can it be a horror story with props, costumes, delicious thrills and a sense of danger.
- M xx
¹ though not always. >:o)