Questions poly people get asked

Questions Trish asked in preparation for a workshop about polyamory.

• Don't you get jealous?

  Actually, no. I'm not 100% convinced that there's such a thing as jealousy; a whole lot of other emotions (insecurity, time envy etc) get called that.

• How do you find the time?

  This one needs a longer answer, but the jist is this: not all relationships are very time consuming. Promising your partner that you won't sleep with anyone else would be a weird way to solve time constraints if that was the only reason it was done. Healthy relationships usually involve scheduling time for partners to pursue their own activities, whether that's other relationships or Jiu Jitsu or whatever.

  Having said all that, I'll concede that the way I live, scheduling time is a bastard.

• Don't you want to settle down?

  Absolutely not. As far as I'm concerned, that's another word for spiritual death.

  However, I do want stable, reliable things in my life, which is why I have a steady job, mortgage, lasting relationships and so on.

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Advice sought: Windows can't see my CD drive

Summary: Windows 98 still can't see my CD drive. Do I have any option besides a reinstall?

One day, without cause that I can figure out, I booted Windows on my laptop and found that the CD-ROM drive was no longer listed among the drives. Linux can still see and use the drive just fine, but even if I disable and re-enable it in the BIOS, Windows doesn't see it.

I found this out when trying to re-install network drivers under Windows, so I don't currently have Windows networking either.

If you had such a problem, where would you go for advice?

many thanks in advance...