For me, another part is stripping away the shield. It can be difficult to be yourself sometimes, even if you want to be. Pain, humiliation and other BDSM activities help us strip away the face we present to the world every day and get through to something deeper. There's nothing measured about screaming in pain.
It was very clear to me that you asked the question honestly and I thought you deserved a decent answer!
What you asked was "why do people want to hurt their lovers?", and what we've answered is "why do people want their lovers to hurt them?". I hope it's clear how answering the second goes some way towards answering the first!
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Date: 2001-06-13 09:38 am (UTC)For me, another part is stripping away the shield. It can be difficult to be yourself sometimes, even if you want to be. Pain, humiliation and other BDSM activities help us strip away the face we present to the world every day and get through to something deeper. There's nothing measured about screaming in pain.
It was very clear to me that you asked the question honestly and I thought you deserved a decent answer!
What you asked was "why do people want to hurt their lovers?", and what we've answered is "why do people want their lovers to hurt them?". I hope it's clear how answering the second goes some way towards answering the first!