Thinking of two occasions in the last few years when I've hooked up with a man (there have been more than two - I'm thinking of the ones where I can remember how the 'first move' went): in one, there was conversation and lots of intense eye-contact and then I asked if "we do kissing" (and we did). In another, there was lots of conversation (and a long history of friendship) and then I said I'd like to kiss him and asked if he'd like that too, and he thought about it for a couple of hours and then decided that yes, he would like that. At least a couple of expressions of interest have happened online - with first moves going in both directions. I can think of a couple of men who I think made the first move towards me in person, but I can't remember exactly how the interaction went.
I have the impression that in our community, concern about the possibility of making people feel uncomfortable or coerced might mean that men are less likely to make first moves than in the mainstream? I could be wrong.
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Date: 2011-10-06 08:21 am (UTC)in one, there was conversation and lots of intense eye-contact and then I asked if "we do kissing" (and we did).
In another, there was lots of conversation (and a long history of friendship) and then I said I'd like to kiss him and asked if he'd like that too, and he thought about it for a couple of hours and then decided that yes, he would like that.
At least a couple of expressions of interest have happened online - with first moves going in both directions. I can think of a couple of men who I think made the first move towards me in person, but I can't remember exactly how the interaction went.
I have the impression that in our community, concern about the possibility of making people feel uncomfortable or coerced might mean that men are less likely to make first moves than in the mainstream? I could be wrong.