I'm not sure about poly, but I should think that whether a person is heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual is definitely determined by their nature.
You can't decide to fancy someone, either you do or you don't and there's no logic or conscious decision there at all. You can decide what to do about it if you do fancy someone, but there isn't really a choice in who you find attractive in the first place.
What exactly makes someone appear attractive to you is a mysterious process, but I guess that if all (or maybe almost all) the people you've ever fancied are of one particular gender (or you perceive them to be of that particular gender at the time) then you can assume that you're either purely heterosexual or purely homosexual (depending on which gender it is), whereas if gender seems not to affect who you find sexually attractive then you're bisexual.
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Re: Sorry for jumping in here...
Date: 2002-06-06 05:26 pm (UTC)You can't decide to fancy someone, either you do or you don't and there's no logic or conscious decision there at all. You can decide what to do about it if you do fancy someone, but there isn't really a choice in who you find attractive in the first place.
What exactly makes someone appear attractive to you is a mysterious process, but I guess that if all (or maybe almost all) the people you've ever fancied are of one particular gender (or you perceive them to be of that particular gender at the time) then you can assume that you're either purely heterosexual or purely homosexual (depending on which gender it is), whereas if gender seems not to affect who you find sexually attractive then you're bisexual.