I don't think this is an unreasonable limit to set at all; if his "total entitlement" only extends to having sex with her at all because it's been negotiated, then it only extends as far as the limits you negotiate between you.
And getting all the sordid details is one of the great perks of poly I think! But it might be fairest to make sure the other person knew that was going to happen, which you could do in a positive way just by saying "I can't wait to tell Sally all about this" or suchlike...
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Date: 2002-06-06 08:05 am (UTC)And getting all the sordid details is one of the great perks of poly I think! But it might be fairest to make sure the other person knew that was going to happen, which you could do in a positive way just by saying "I can't wait to tell Sally all about this" or suchlike...